I recently met a pit master/cook whose life story is as rich and layered as the food he prepares. He isn’t just a cook; he’s a true artist, and the lessons he’s learned from life and the kitchen are one and the same but most importantly worth sharing.
A Cooks Life Lessons From Grandparents
Meet Kelsi, whose cooking journey began with his grandmother, an “old school” woman he called her who lived in Tuskegee Alabama. She was a hand-on woman who cuts no corners in the kitchen. He remembered growing up on a homestead, where his grandparent’s raised cattle, goats, and chickens. From the age of five, he was learning to milk cows, shell peas, and mend fences. The kind of hands-on work that teaches you the value of dedication. His grandfather, a man who owned and worked 40 acres with an unwavering spirit, was his first and most important teacher. He didn’t just teach him how to work hard; he taught him how to never cut corners. He remembers his grandfather tearing down a perfectly good fence just because one post wasn’t placed correctly. He also recalls sitting with his grandfather, watching him observe his livestock, knowing each one by name and understanding their needs just by a single glance.
Cooking As an Art Form
This same deep observation and dedication now define his approach to cooking. For him, cooking isn’t just about flipping a rack of ribs or throwing ingredients together, it’s an art form. He treats the grill or workstation like a canvas and the meat like his medium with patience and timing as his the most important ingredients. He’s been cooking for decades, but he approaches it with the constant curiosity of a student. When he wants to learn a new technique, he finds a mentor and studies them like a book, soaking up every bit of their knowledge.
Beyond the kitchen, he’s a man of many skills, a welder, a carpet layer, and a cement worker. He was raised to have multiple trades, a mix of “hard” and “soft” skills, to ensure he could always provide for himself. Welding is his hard trade and culinary is his soft one. For now, however, cooking is his focus because it brings him peace. He told me he’d rather take a little less money and do what he loves than chase a high-paying job that leaves him unhappy.
Life Lesson Worth Sharing and Living By
His final lesson is the one that stuck with me the most: It’s the idea that true success isn’t measured by a bank balance but by the peace and fulfillment you find in your work. He’s a living example of this, choosing to focus on cooking a craft he loves even if it pays less than his other trades. This belief that “life isn’t just about a lot of money; it’s about doing what makes you happy” is his most profound insight. It’s a rejection of the constant pressure to chase bigger paychecks at the expense of personal joy. For him, the satisfaction of creating something beautiful and delicious with his own hands outweighs any financial gain.
This mindset also fuels his dedication. He told me, “You can cook anything if you simply put your mind to it.” This isn’t just about culinary skills; it’s a metaphor for life. It speaks to the power of focus, persistence, dedication, and passion.
More Than Just a Recipe – A Philosophy of Life
This cook’s philosophy is more than just a recipe for a great meal; it’s a recipe for a fulfilling life. The idea that being the best comes from a personal commitment to always wanting to be better, never giving up, and staying dedicated applies to every part of our lives.
Think about any passion or goal you have, whether it’s learning a new skill, building a business, or even being a better version of yourself. The people who excel aren’t necessarily the most talented from the start. They are the ones who show up every day, stay dedicated to their craft, and push past challenges instead of giving up.
It isn’t about perfection; it’s about the continuous effort to master something you genuinely love. This cook finds peace and happiness not in the final product, but in the process itself, the daily practice, the small improvements, and the journey of learning. In life, this mindset teaches us that true joy and success are found in the pursuit of our passions, not just in reaching the destination or accumulating wealth. When you commit to a craft you love, the effort and dedication become their own reward.
